RELATIONSHIPS AFTER BABY
When your relationship
no longer feels like it used to.
Having a baby changes every relationship.
You may love your partner deeply while simultaneously feeling unseen, unsupported or emotionally alone. Conversations become practical. Intimacy changes. Resentment quietly builds. The smallest things begin to feel enormous.
Many mothers tell me: "I don't recognise us anymore."
Relationship difficulties after becoming parents are incredibly common, yet they can feel frighteningly isolating. Therapy offers a space to understand what's happening beneath the conflict so that you're no longer carrying it alone.
This doesn't mean your relationship is failing.
It often means you're both trying to survive one of life's biggest transitions.
Parenthood changes identities, responsibilities, routines, sleep,
priorities and emotional capacity.
Many couples aren't arguing because they love each other less.
They're overwhelmed.
How relationship changes can show up after having a baby
Relationship difficulties after having a baby don't always look like constant arguments or dramatic conflict. More often, they appear gradually and quietly. Conversations that once felt easy become centred around nappies, nursery pick-ups and who's making dinner. You might find yourself keeping score of who did what, feeling guilty for asking for help because you know your partner is exhausted too, or wondering when you last spent time together without talking about your child.
Many parents describe feeling more like teammates than partners. The affection and spontaneity that once came naturally can be replaced by routines, responsibilities and an endless list of things that need doing. You can find yourself missing each other while living under the same roof.
Although these experiences can feel unsettling, they don't necessarily mean your relationship is failing. More often, they're a reflection of the emotional, practical and psychological adjustments that come with becoming parents. Understanding these patterns is often the first step towards rebuilding connection and finding a way forward together.
Ways relationship changes can affect you
Growing
resentment
You feel like you're carrying everything while your partner simply doesn't see it.
Emotional distance
You're living alongside one another rather than feeling like a couple.
Changes in intimacy
Physical and emotional intimacy can change dramatically after becoming parents, often leaving both partners feeling uncertain.
Constant conflict
Arguments happen more often, escalate more quickly or never truly get resolved.
Feeling unsupported
You want to feel understood but instead feel criticised, dismissed or alone.
Loss of connection
You're incredible parents—but you've forgotten how to simply be partners.
The goal isn't to decide who's right.
It's to understand what's happening underneath.
How therapy can help
Becoming a mother changes everything - how you see yourself, what you need and how you show up in your closest relationships. In therapy, we slow things down, exploring the patterns keeping you stuck and why certain interactions feel so charged.
Drawing on Compassion Focused Therapy (CFT), Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing Therapy (EMDR) and attachment-informed approaches, I tailor each session to you. Many clients find they begin to communicate more openly, feel less overwhelmed and begin reconnecting with themselves as well as the people they love.
I spent months believing our relationship was broken.
Therapy helped me understand that we were both overwhelmed rather than against each other.
Anonymous Client
THE PRACTICALITIES
Everything you might be wondering before we begin.
Beginning therapy can feel like a big step. Here are few of the questions people most often ask before getting started.
Sessions
Therapy takes place online via secure video, allowing you to access support from the comfort and privacy of your own home.
Sessions last 50 minutes and provide a calm, confidential space to explore what's bringing you to therapy.
I currently offer appointments on weekdays, with limited evening availability.
Most clients attend weekly to begin with, although we can discuss a pace that feels right for you.
Availability
Fees
Individual therapy sessions are £130 per session.
I am a registered provider for AXA PPP, AVIVA, Vitality Health, Cigna, Simply Health, WPA, Aetna Global and Healix.
I also offer a complimentary introductory consultation so we can explore your needs before committing to ongoing therapy.
Working together
I work with adults across the world (excluding the US and Canada) through secure online therapy.
All you need is a reliable internet connection, a device with a camera and somewhere private where you can speak comfortably.
